Now… a good way to think about the difference between Love… and… Nurturing…
Because many people assume they are the same…
And yes, true… they are closely linked… you need Nurturing to be able to experience Love… as I will explain below…
But I have come to the conclusion that Nurturing pre-dates our ability to feel Loved… or our own Self-Love… needs to occur before… even if only by a matter of minutes…
But they are not the same…
There is a fundamental difference between the two…
And you need Nurturing to occur before Love… or else you can’t feel Love… it just passes straight past you… or through you… which can be a very frustrating time… a very miserable time… you are searching for something, desperately, but it keeps passing you by, ignoring you, slipping through your fingers… allusive…
And you don’t know what you have to DO to make it happen!
And a lot of mistakes can be made in life if people assume they are the same… that Love = Nurturing… a lot of wasted time… as I will also explain below…
I am not saying that Nurturing is more important then Love… but you need to have integrated the first before you can feel the second…
So, using the image of the electric plug above…
Love is like the electricity which is travelling through the wires… through the plug… and into whatever electrical device which you are trying to power… powering it… bringing it to life…
However…
Nurturing is like the plug itself… which is inserted into the electrical socket… allowing a connection to be made… and so the electricity to flow across the bridge…
Without the plug making connection to the socket… the electricity could not flow into the device… maybe a computer/laptop… maybe a kettle… maybe a mobile phone…
Without this connection being made… without someone plugging in the plug… the electricity will not… cannot… flow… and the device which you are trying to use will stay dormant…
The device will remain dead… or maybe it will be on low power mode… like a computer… or mobile… desperately trying to conserve energy…
But a connection has to be first made…that’s the important thing…
Now… another useful metaphor for the whole Love & Nurturing process…
Dodgem cars…
Where the electrical flow is in the metal grid hanging above the cars…
But is being drawn down through the pole which reaches up, above the dodgem car, and connects to the grid… as in the side image… allowing the electricity to flow down and power the dodgem car…
If the connection between the top of the rod and the metal grid becomes loose… or they are even separated completely… then the electrical connection is broken… and the dodgem’s electrical motor cuts out… and the car comes to a total halt…
And you are going nowhere…
You could also say similar for an electric car recharging at a recharge station… the plug has to be correctly inserted into the car’s engine socket for the electricity to flow… the car’s battery to be charged… and the electric car to GO…
Because you are going nowhere with a flat battery (and the same is true for humans, as we shall see, but in a slightly different way)
OK… now that we have armed ourselves with a few relevant metaphors… to help us better understand what is going on…
From a Universal perspective…
Love is in the Universal grid… ever flowing and present… all around us… although more recently Lynne McTaggart has given it the name of The Field… and written books about it… (namely The Field: The Quest for the Secret Force of the Universe)
Fundamentally, Love is a vibration… a frequency which stretches from one side of the Universe to the other… from its top to its bottom… from its beginning to its end… (and as Physicists have suggested… and Mystics have always said… the Universe is BIG… most likely eternal and infinite)…
In which case, each individual needs a way to tap into all this infinity and eternity… and bring it down to our human scale and size…
Much like every electric toaster needs a way to tap into the vast electrical energies circulating through the National Electricity Grid of your country… and make the power available safe and relevant for its own function…
And in a human context, that is what Nurturing is all about… it allows an individual to plug into the Field… make the connection… and draw down / through the vibrations required… in this case… Love…
(But the same is basically true for other vibrations… all frequencies sourced from within The Field… we need a connection to allow us to access-download them into us…)
So Nurturing is different to Love…
If Love is the frequency and energy flowing through the Universal Field… the frequency we want to experience…
Nurturing is the connection which we make to the the Universal Field of Love… allowing us to draw down, and into us, all the Love which we need…
Now… here we encounter… the first (and perhaps biggest) misconception…
Love is delivered to us through other people… and so we need to go hunting for someone to love us before we can experience Love…
And yes, there is some truth in that statement… but not 100%… it’s not a complete truth… and not one which will allow someone who is feeling unloved to work their way back to being and feeling Loved…
Let me explain… or hopefully try… using what we have explored and covered so far…
Love is flowing in the Universal Field…
We need to draw it down…
We need to make a connection to the Universal Field / Love frequency…
We do that successfully (and I will explain about the how of that in a moment)…
We feel the Love starting to flow into and through us…
We experience the feeling of Love…
And then… shortly after… the personage of our dreams suddenly turns up in our life… and Love arrives in our life… in physical form… wow…
Someone who resonates with that same frequency of Love… and Loves you back… wow squared…
(Although it could be your dream job… or your forever home… basically something external which resonates with the Love you are now feeling within… the Love you are now successfully connected with within…)
It’s a classic statement, which you here again and again, “I looked for love for years… found no one… and then as soon as I started loving myself… the person of my dreams turned up a week later… after all those years of searching…”
And what the cleaver people ask at this point… “Sorry… how did you start loving yourself exactly again… what did you start doing / thinking?”
But because we humans are external facing beings… and are generally not aware of the internal processing which goes on within and around us…
We tend to assume that the person of our dreams manifest is the cause of our Love…
We assume that this new person created it… or triggered it… for us…
(And because we have fallen in love, and we think/feel that this other person who has turned up in our life is golden… it kind of makes sense… kind of…)
Now… that is not to say that there isn’t an external part to the whole looking for the man/woman of your dreams… or dream job / home… looking for the right fit…
But it isn’t going to happen if the whole plugging yourself into Love hasn’t happened first…
That is what I have found… seriously…
And that cannot occur if you haven’t got access to the Nurturing plugin for Love within you…
Because that is the same as discovering the electrical wiring running through the walls in your house… but having no way to access it… no way to plug in to run your toaster… because there are no electrical sockets in your home! How can you watch TV… wash your clothes… or burn toast!
So if you talk to those people who have found love after years of desperately searching… if you explore the what happened to them exactly story… it is usually that they started to Value themselves… to Nurture themselves… and this gave them access to Self-Love… and therefore allowed Love to flow in in other ways and forms… through the now established Nurturing connection…
This was the missing equation they needed to find Love externally…
It’s a bit like that well-known Alchemist saying… “As above, so below… as within, so without“…
It has to be flowing within you first before it can start flowing externally… you have to be able to feel Love yourself… Self-Love especially… before Love can truly turn up in your life in differently manifest forms… (although when it does turn up, suddenly, after years of desperately searching, it can be totally unexpected, like winning the lottery after decades of just getting by, existing on the poverty line… a miracle… which I suppose it is…)
But why? What is going on here? How does this particular equation work (because for some people… it feels so unfair!)?
Well… to explain that… we need to travel back to the moment of our birth… or to the time which occurs shortly after our birth…
Which is the same for everyone basically… the same things need to happen… for a human life to be truly successful from the start…
But things can go wrong… things which should happen, just may not happen in the way they should… unfortunately…
And that can send someone, a new-born baby, or small child, who has little or control over their life… down a completely different life-path then the one which was mapped out or intended…
Now… babies are born (according to psychologists) with only two behaviour patterns programmed into them… the fear of loud noises… and the fear of falling / being dropped…
I suppose in pre-history… if the rest of the tribe was asleep… and the new-born baby heard a loud noise… or became afraid that the sleeping mother was going to drop it… screaming at the top of its lungs might have alerted others to a potential danger, and so saved a few lives… so that maybe why Evolution programmed babies with those two particular behaviour patterns…
But everything else… we need to learn after we get here… from other humans… adults…
And that’s the BIG problem… in essence…
The successful transference of the Self-Nurturing and Self-Love vibrations from one generation to the next can be fraught with difficulty and error…
And basically, there are two BIG problems:
- What if you are a little one trying to learn about Self-Nurturing / Self-Love from some adult who just doesn’t know how themselves… what if you are trying to download the much needed vibrations from a mother or primary care-giver who just doesn’t have those vibrations within themselves to begin with?
- It is possible for someone to have received the Self-Nurturing / Self-Love vibration from their mother successfully shortly after birth… and then the circumstances of their life has caused them to be deleted / lost? (It can happen, unfortunately… it happened to me… and led me down a path of trying to “manifest on empty“… it sucked for over 50 years… until the Universe intervened… and the information you are reading now is the positive benefit of all that lost time…)
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OK… the truth is it’s not just about Self-Love and Nurturing… there are other levels of Nurturing… vibrations and frequencies which need to be plugged into other areas of our subtle anatomy
I have found, over the past 2 decades or exploring and being shown, that there are 10 Nurturing Vibrations:
- Physical Nurturing
- Emotional Nurturing
- Mental Nurturing
- Spiritual Nurturing
- Sexual Nurturing
- Financial Nurturing
- Gay Nurturing
- Love Nurturing
- Self-Nurturing
And I will soon be releasing a book to go through these in more detail, plus the Crystal Qualities / Audio Essences to help provide the correct vibrations for anyone who feels they are missing in any of these areas… and need to upload / download the correct vibrations… and so fill in the vibrational gaps.
Note: The seventh one is only relevant to Gay / Lesbian people… but gives them what they need from their straight parents… which is another complex problem entirely… but fixable fortunately… once you know that the problem exists, admittedly.
(c) Brian Parsons, 2022