Shiva Lingam stone comes from only one place, the Narmada River in Western India, which is a holy site.

They are usually two distinct shades of red / brown in colour, although individual stones can vary considerably… and it is now possible to get Black Shiva Lingams.

Now, the tradition was that on a special day of the year, the Shiva Lingam stones would be retrieved from the sacred river by a Hindu priest, as part of a religious ceremony, after which the stone would be polished. Unfortunately, in the modern age, it is highly likely any Shiva Lingam which you come into contact with was NOT taken out of the river during this special ceremony…

But that is fine… because the magic resides in the stone and does not come from the ceremony (or the Hindu priest). And the magic of Brown Shiva Lingam is … nurturing.

The Dictionary definition of Nurturing is usually something like: “care for and protect (someone or something) while they are growing”

Basically, nurturing is part of grounding while growing, a critical part of the process of being HERE and NOW.

The great crystal healer Jane Ann Dow reported that the people who chose Brown Shiva Lingums during their crystal therapy sessions were the ones who were in desperate need of nurturing, physically and emotionally, and who had unfortunately never received it during their childhoods.

It was as if they were missing some important energetic part of their DNA. And when you haven’t been sufficiently nurtured… then it can effectively undermine 99% of your life… because you literally didn’t get off to a good start in life… and you’re never sure on how to be HERE, physically, emotionally and mentally… let alone about being in the NOW…

The great psychiatrist John Bowlby, who formulated Attachment Theory, and the psychologists who have come after him, discovered that human beings are programmed to need an emotional connection with another person… from the moment of their birth. This is why small babies, left untouched in orphanages, suffer terrible mental and emotional damage, are physically weak, and may not even survive beyond 3 years old.

Emotional connection, or nurturing, is part of the human survival plan. Babies need to bond with their parents/carers, because human babies are totally dependent on their parents/carers to survive… for food, warmth, shelter, and protection… and a lot of other stuff too… a lot more then milk is passed between mother and child early on…

But as Bowlby found, this need for emotional connection goes on throughout all of our adult life and is a fundamental need in all our important relationships. We need to be nurtured… we need to nurture… both ourselves and others…

Now, basically nurturing is Red Love, a love which helps us to ground into our bodies, ground into the earth plane, and it is something a small baby desperately needs at the time / moment of birth. It is also a Love which helps us to get the best out of the Earth Plane… so that we can fulfil our life purpose…

A bit like someone who has just stepped off the plane, after a 12 hour flight around the world, needs to take a little time to adjust to being on firm ground again… before they can hit the ground running…

Also… Imagine a small boat at sea, being thrown around by the high waves. One of the ways it can find stability is if a much larger boat was to come alongside, and throw it a rope, so the small boat can use the much larger weight/mass of the larger boat to anchor and stabilize itself…

Energetically, the same thing happens between a baby and its parents/carers. A small baby arrives on the earth plane, and is all at sea energetically, until one of its parents/carers throws it an energy line, known as nurturing, and helps to anchor it. And the more lines of nurturing the baby receives, the more chance it has of grounding in (although one strong line is enough… and psychologists have discovered it doesn’t need to be the birth mother, but it does need to be an adult who cares).

If this process is interrupted or missing for some reason, then the growing child is never completely grounded, lacks emotional stability, and tends to be either anxious around emotional relationships, or avoidant (i.e. avoids being in a mature relationship full stop).

Working with the vibration of Brown Shiva Lingam can help to repair the damaged nurturing process, and so greatly reduce emotional anxiety and tension.

Shiva Lingam can help a person discover that it is safe to be here, now, in a physical body, and so improve their emotional connection to those around them. (c) Brian Parsons, 2022